Monday, November 19, 2012

Thankfulness for Family


I was checking my facebook early Sunday morning and found this story posted by one of my friends. Usually I read what is shown and move on....but something about the picture caught my attention and I read the whole story.  By the time I finished reading it I was blubbering like a baby.  Since this is Thanksgiving week and I have been participating in 30 Days of Thanks I thought I would post this story.....you see....this is almost my story.....and if it is almost MY story....then it might be YOUR story.  I was one of the fortunate ones....although at the time I did not see it quite that way.  My parents lived with me the last five years of their lives.  I heard my dad's stories a hundred times....but that is ok....because they are imbedded in my memory.  I hugged them every day....and I would take nothing for that.  I gave them my television time and sat and watched Game Show Channel, Walker Texas Ranger, and the Gaithers with them....and every once in a while my dad and mom would reach over and squeeze my hand.  I am not saying it was all peaches and creamy all the time....but it was time spent with my parents in their last year.....and for that I am thankful.  I hope you take a nugget with you from this story....I know I did.  I learned that you should never take time with loved ones for granted.
 
"After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, “I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and ...
would love to spend some time with you.”

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally. That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. “What’s wrong, are you well?” she asked.

My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news. “I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,” I responded. “Just the two of us.” She thought about it for a moment, and then said, “I would like that very much.”

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel’s. “I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed, “she said, as she got into the car. “They can’t wait to hear about our meeting.”

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. “It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,” she said. “Then it’s time that you relax and let me return the favor,” I responded. During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation – nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other’s life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, “I’ll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.” I agreed.

“How was your dinner date?” asked my wife when I got home. “Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,” I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn’t have a chance to do anything for her. Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: “I paid this bill in advance. I wasn’t sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates – one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son.”

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: “I LOVE YOU” and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till “some other time.”

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